A Romantic Invitation from Guy Blaise

Falling In Love Again With Your Spouse: Guy Blaise On 5 Things You Need To Rekindle Love In A Marriage

An Interview with Ben Ari
Authority Magazine Editorial Staff

Thank you so much for doing this with us! Before we dive in, our readers would love to “get to know you” a bit better. Can you tell us your backstory and what brought you to this career path?

Bonjour! I was born in France and moved to the United States in my late twenties. I’ve always been fascinated by cultural differences in love, dating, and relationships. After years of observation, writing became my way of sharing the lessons I’ve learned from both sides of the Atlantic. My passion is helping people experience deeper, more joyful romantic lives.

Can you share the most interesting story that happened to you since you began this career?

While researching for my books, I had conversations with women from all walks of life. One woman told me, “The French see love as a daily art, not a rare event.” That stayed with me. It pushed me to write not just about passion, but about the art of nurturing love every single day.

Can you share a story about a time when you made a mistake in your relationship and what you learned?

In my early years living in the U.S., I misunderstood how important verbal affirmation was for many American women. In France, we show love through small gestures — a touch, a look, a bottle of wine. I learned that words matter more than I realized. Sometimes, a woman needs to hear that she’s loved, not just feel it.

Based on your experience or research, can you share five things you need to rekindle love in a marriage? Please share a story or example for each.

1. Curiosity

Curiosity keeps love alive. When couples stop asking questions, they stop discovering each other. In France, couples are encouraged to stay curious about each other’s dreams, frustrations, and secret hopes — even after decades together.

2. Physical Touch Without Pressure

In my culture, physical affection isn’t only for the bedroom. It’s the small kisses, touches, and glances that build intimacy. When physical touch becomes transactional, the romance dies.

3. Playfulness

Laughter is seductive. French couples tease, flirt, and play. Playfulness keeps things light, especially during stressful times.

4. Rituals That Celebrate the Relationship

Shared rituals — a glass of wine every Friday night, a handwritten note tucked in a suitcase — act as emotional glue. It says, “You matter to me, even in the middle of chaos.

5. Emotional Courage

It takes courage to say, “I feel disconnected,” without blaming your partner. In France, we call this “le courage d’aimer” — the courage to love with vulnerability.

Resources I Recommend:

I’m an avid reader and podcast listener — I don’t believe you can ever stop learning.
One podcast I recommend is Where Should We Begin? by Esther Perel. Listening to real couples navigate real struggles is eye-opening.
In terms of books, Esther Perel’s Mating in Captivity is a masterpiece for anyone wanting to understand the tension between love and desire in long-term relationships.

Closing Thoughts:

In France, we believe love is an art form.
It’s not something you stumble into — it’s something you nurture every day.

“Romance is not grand gestures once a year; it’s small acts of tenderness practiced daily.”

If you feel your marriage needs rekindling, don’t wait for a crisis. Start today. Small changes — a genuine compliment, a warm glance across the table — can reignite what you thought was lost.
Love is not a feeling you chase; it’s a creation you build.

To explore more about emotional intimacy, the French way of loving, and rekindling romance, visit TheFrenchPerspective.com.